By: James Carter
We were on holiday recently and my partner was navigating. It was dark and she wasn’t really sure of where we were or how to get to our destination. On several occasions I was tempted to ridicule her efforts to find her way and laugh outright at her method of navigating.
I’m so glad I didn’t! She did find her way eventually and I had a fantastic time on my surprise weekend away. She even apologised (after some time had passed!), for the lengthy detour. I guarantee that none of that would have happened if I’d made her feel stupid.
So what stopped me? I thought about it afterwards and realised that I just didn’t have the desire to tease her because I knew she’d take it personally and would feel bad about it. I knew she’d put so much energy into making it the perfect weekend away, and she was probably already beating herself up for getting lost, that she didn’t need me to pile it on too.
It’s something I’ve learned recently from reading a great book called “Hold On To Your NUTs”, by Wayne M. Levine. It’s a relationship manual for men that explains in plain language some really good tools for being a better man in a relationship. One of the things it talks about is restraining yourself from showing her she’s wrong. The book explains how holding back is the kindest and most effective approach.
You can order a copy of the book from Wayne’s website: http://www.bettermen.org/
Monday, July 13, 2009
Make Your Woman Feel Good
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3 comments:
nice tips hehe, ill have to give this a try and see if it makes her go wild :)
Good job you didnt take a wrong turn you could have been dating somebody else
my wife sometimes mispronounces words and for some reason really dummies up when we watch a movie. It takes a lot of willpower not to correct her or tease her. But this advice is sound if you want a happy relationship and some "loving" later in the night.
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