Have More Sex With Your Partner – how women are like cars

By: James Carter

Ever wondered how you can have more sex with your partner? Is there some secret way to persuade her to say yes more often? Is your sex life dull and monotonous? If you answered yes to any of those questions, then this article maybe able to teach you techniques that will lead to a much more active and exciting sexual relationship with your partner.

It’s well understood that men and women have different needs when it comes to sex – for men it’s often just a physical need, for women there needs to be more of an emotional connection. In fact, I liken it to an analogy all men will understand: men are like petrol 2-strokes, women are like V12 Ferraris!

Your average 2-stroke sits in the garage until it’s needed, then it’s given a couple of hard pulls and it’s ready for action, revving at 100% full power. That’s how men are – very little preamble is required before they’re in the mood and completely ready for action. With a Ferrari engine however, you’d let it warm up before you gave it a few revs, then you’d gently increase the power, playing with the throttle and enjoying the feelings it gave you wile you watch the temperature gauge. Once you were sure the engine was ready, you’d let it rip! Well that’s how it is with women as well; they need to be warmed up too, they just call it foreplay!

Actually, here’s an important point – when men think of foreplay, they think of it as sex without the penetration. With women, foreplay is the whole act of warming her up and it can start hours before you finally get into bed! Women need time to warm up – sometimes lots of time. During this warm up, you might be stroking her hair, massaging her feet or brushing your fingertips across her shoulders & neck (just keep thinking how good that V12 sounds as you gently rev it!)

Another key thing to concentrate on is her feedback – you wouldn’t keep revving the engine if it had a bad screech or rattle. So if she’s enjoying the attention and is warming up, then keep going. If she’s just not in the mood then back off and maybe try again later or leave it for another day. These techniques do work (I can vouch for that!) but they won’t work every time and sometimes you’ll only get so far before she’s had enough (but then that how she keeps you interested!)

So she’s showing signs of interest and the temperature gauge is rising but it’s not time to put your foot down just yet. Now it’s time to move the foreplay to the next level and show her you’re not just fooling around – it’s time to show her you want her! This is really important as it fulfils the emotional connection she seeks.

What I suggest is you begin to gently kiss her neck & shoulders and tell her how much you love her & how special she is to you (sweet nuthins they used to be called!) All going well you’ll get some positive reactions and maybe a kiss or two in return. If you achieve that, then the engine is definitely sounding good and may be ready for a race sometime soon, but not quite yet… Now it’s time to turn off the TV and suggest you both have a bath, or maybe offer her a massage. Remember it’s all about giving her enough time to warm up and get connected with you.

By the time you’ve managed to get her into the bath or are giving her a sensual massage, you’ve almost reached your goal. Just keep telling her and showing her how special she is & how much she means to you, keep touching her and showing how much you’re attracted to her. All this will make her feel good about herself and she’ll want to make you feel good too.

Finally, after you’ve revved that beautiful V12 engine, don’t just switch it off and leave it in the garage until the next time you want it. Show it how much you enjoyed the experience, stroke it & caress it until it cools down & falls asleep on your shoulder. It’ll make warming her up the next time so much easier!

Author Bio: James Carter offers practical advice for men on dealing with relationship issues and recovering from separation. Article Source: http://mens-place.blogspot.com - an original article